We all set standards
for ourselves in work, hobbies, and our personal lives. Setting
standards and goals are the most effective way to constantly work
towards what we want in life. And being serious about achievement and
personal success is important. But there is a need for balance and
grace, giving yourself room to make mistakes and possibly fail while
trying to be your best. Being too much of a perfectionist leaves no
room for error, and can be unhealthy for you and difficult for those
closest to you. If you feel like you may be a little too harsh on
yourself or others, check out these 11 signs that you’re too much
of a perfectionist.
handle making mistakes.
If you leave
yourself no room to ever make mistakes, then you likely have an issue
with perfectionism. You likely cannot leave errors for long, feeling
an immediate need to correct them.
You deal in
You may feel like
everything has to be all or nothing, in that either you have done
well or poorly, with no room for gray area. Things are either totally
right or wrong, good or bad.
unrealistic expectations of yourself and others.
Not only is it hard
on yourself to maintain unrealistic standards, but it is extremely
taxing on your loved ones if you constantly force them to attempt to
meet them as well.
You have low
yourself to unrealistic expectations will leave you in a place of
consistent failure. Failing repeatedly can lead you to think poorly
of yourself, when really you never stood a chance at success with
impossibly high standards.
You are never
Even when once he or
she has achieved wildly difficult goals, a perfectionist will still
feel like it’s not enough. Perfectionists are never satisfied and
always mentally downplay their own accomplishments.
You only care
find a way to achieve their desired results, by any means necessary.
Regardless of their own personal happiness or safety, or that of
others, they will do anything for results.
extremely emotional when you don’t get what you envisioned.
Even if your
intended outcome is skewed by the slightest change in detail, you may
feel emotionally volatile. This could include feeling angry,
depressed, disappointed, or frustrated.
You get lost in
Having a case of
extreme perfectionism can cause you to spend an insane amount of time
on minuscule details of a project or assignment. Many perfectionists
find themselves barely meeting or even missing deadlines because they
are too wrapped up in perfection.
You are overly
critical and judgmental of others.
If you are
constantly pointing out the errors in others’ work, performance, or
even behavior—no matter how great their work is or accommodating
their personality is—you are likely a perfectionist.
You can’t take
Failure is the
end-all for perfectionists. So even the tiniest suggestion, piece of
advice of constructive criticism can send them into full-on defense
You can never
admit when you’re wrong.
No matter how perfect you try to be, everyone is wrong at some point. If you find yourself never able to admit or even realize that you are wrong, you are likely a perfectionist.